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FAQ: Prostate Play!

If you drew a Venn Diagram, Anal Play and Prostate Play would have a lot of overlap. Like, for starters, they’re both sex acts that involve the butt area. A big difference between the two, though, is that we have an info page on Anal Play [Link], but none for Prostate Play! Whoops! We’ve been getting some questions about it, so here’s a quick primer on Prostate Play:

What is a Prostate?

What’s its job?

Quick Note
Prostate health is important! Prostate cancer is one of the most common types of cancer in Canada, but there are ways people can lower their risk of getting it. Eating a high-fibre diet and staying physically active can help your body (including your prostate). Studies have also show a connection between frequent ejaculation and a lower risk of prostate cancer, so consider masturbating a few times a week!

What is Prostate Play?

Helpful Tips

  • Trim fingers nails to avoid nicks or tears to the anus or rectum.
  • Consider having latex (or non-latex) gloves nearby in case you’d like a barrier.
  • It can be helpful to pee or poop before hand to clear out your system. Some people also do an enema.
  • Try relaxing. Foreplay helps!
  • You can try externally massaging the prostate through the perineum (the area between your testicles and anus aka taint) by using your fingers to rub, stroke or press the area to see what sensations feel good.
  • When you and/or your partner feel comfortable, you can try gradually inserting things into the anus. We’d recommend starting with one finger (before trying for more), and using a water-based lube.
  • It may take a couple of tries to find a position suitable for you/your partner. It’s always helpful to start slow and build your way into it.
  • If comfortable, you/your partner can move your fingers in a “come hither” motion to locate the prostate. It’ll feel kind of like a round bulb of tissue.
  • Be careful to not use your finger nails at all!
  • You can also use sex toys! Make sure whatever you insert has a flared base.
  • Oral stimulation for the anus and perineum can also be pleasurable to some folks.

Some Questions About Prostate Play

For more info on this subject, check out some of our other info pages:

If you have questions about this topic, feel free to contact one of our peer educators. [Link]

Last Updated: June 2020