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Vaginal Sex

Screwing. Doing it. No matter what you call it, vaginal sex is healthy and normal. It can be a good way to share pleasure, but not everyone is into it.

What is vaginal sex?

  • Vaginal sex is when something is put into a vagina*, usually a penis*, fingers, or sex toy.

Does vaginal sex hurt?

  • Vaginal sex may be uncomfortable the first time, but it should not continue to hurt if you are moving at a comfortable pace, using lube if necessary and have a sexual partner you can talk to.

Will vaginal sex expose me to any STIs?

  • Yes, you can be exposed to STIs during vaginal sex.
  • By using a condom you can help protect yourself against STIs.
  • If you are using a sex toy for vaginal sex, remember to wash it or put a new condom on it before sharing it between partners or between yourself and a partner.
  • For more information on STIs and how to reduce your risk, check out our info section[Link].

How can I protect myself or my partner from pregnancy?

  • If you are having vaginal sex with a penis, there is a possibility of pregnancy.
  • There are many ways to protect against unplanned pregnancy, including external condoms [Link] and internal condoms [Link].
  • You can also use a hormonal method of birth control (e.g. pill, patch, ring, IUD) or a non-hormonal method (IUD, sponge, VCF, FAM, etc.).
  • For more on how pregnancy happens and how to prevent it, check out the Pregnancy section [Link].

How can I make the most of vaginal sex?

  • Start slow if you can. Spend time kissing, caressing and talking to each other so the vagina can get turned on and moist.
  • When you are both ready to try something inside the vagina, start with small toys or body parts until you and your partner feel ready moving on to something bigger.
  • Take your time. Relax, breathe and be patient.
  • If the vagina seems dry, use a water-based lubricant (oil-based lubricants can break down latex condoms).
Useful Tips
  • Don’t ever put a toy or body part into anyone’s vagina that has been used in anyone’s butt without washing or putting a new condom on it first. Moving bacteria from the butt into the vagina can cause an infection.
  • Talk with your partner before vaginal sex and find out what you are each looking for.
  • During vaginal sex, talk to your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t.

If you have questions about this topic, feel free to contact one of our peer educators. [Link]


*We know that these aren’t the words everyone uses for their bodies (eg. trans folks), and support you using the language that feels best for you.

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