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Ejaculation and Wet Dreams

Jizz, juice, cum, bust, shoot your load.   No matter what you call it, if you have a penis*, there’s a good chance that you can ejaculate or cum. This is perfectly normal and feels awesome!

People with vaginas can ejaculate too, but the focus of this page is on ejaculation for penises.

What is ejaculation?

  • When you ejaculate, the muscles push out semen (cum) out through the urethra at the tip of your penis.
  • This usually happens after touching or stimulating your penis or after having sexy thoughts or dreams.
  • You will typically have an orgasm when you ejaculate but this doesn’t always happen.

What is an orgasm?

  • An orgasm is the peak of sexual pleasure and usually involves muscle contractions in your sexual organs, lower pelvic muscles, and anus.
  • Orgasms can be very intense and can feel like hitting the peak of a hill on a roller coaster.
  • An orgasm also releases endorphins in your brain that make you feel really happy, relaxed and good.
  • For more information about sex, check out the Sex Section of this website.

Can I have an orgasm without ejaculating?

  • Yes, you can have an orgasm without ejaculating, though it is not very common.

Can I ejaculate without having an orgasm?

  • Yes, you can ejaculate (cum) without having an orgasm.

What is semen?

  • Semen is a whitish (or yellowish), sticky fluid that contains sperm (the cells that can fertilize an egg and get someone pregnant), as well as other fluids.
  • There are many different terms for semen such as jizz, cum, juice, cream, load, spooge, wad, man milk, spunk, etc.

What is pre-cum?

  • Pre-cum is the fluid that sometimes comes out of the tip of your penis when you are aroused.
  • Pre-cum may only be a few drops of fluid.

Does pre-cum contain sperm?

  • Pre-cum can contain sperm only if you sperm leftover in your urethra. This happens if you have ejaculated recently and haven’t urinated since then.
  • If you have urinated, then the urine will flush the sperm our of your urethra. If you have not urinated, then the sperm will be flushed out with the pre-cum.
  • If sperm does get mixed with the pre-cum, it can cause pregnancy, although this is rare.

Can pre-cum spread sexually transmitted infections (STIs)?

  • Yes! For more information on how to protect yourself from STIs see the STI Section.

When does ejaculation happen?

  • Ejaculation (or cumming) usually happens when you have an orgasm, but not always.
  • You may have an orgasm during sexual activity or when you are asleep and having a wet dream.

When will I start ejaculating?

  • Everyone ejaculates (cums) for the first time at a different age, usually when they are between 12 and 14 years old.
  • People often experience their first ejaculation while masturbating or sleeping.

What is premature ejaculation?

  • When you have trouble controlling when you ejaculate and ejaculate sooner than you want to.
  • Premature ejaculation is perfectly normal and can happen at any age.

Can I control when and how I ejaculate?

  • As you get older, people often get better at controlling how and when they ejaculate.
  • Try practicing the start and stop method when you are masturbating. When you are turned on (aroused) and feel like ejaculating, stop masturbating and try to hold it back. Once you have held it back for a few minutes, continue masturbating and holding back until you are ready to come.
  • For more information on masturbating, see our info page on Masturbation [Link].

What is a wet dream?

  • When you ejaculate (cum) during sleep, it’s called a wet dream.
  • These are usually accompanied by sexually charged dreams.
  • Wet dreams are really common when people are younger, and usually happen less often as you grow older.
  • Wet dreams are nothing to worry about. Plus, it can be fun and feel good to have sexy dreams!
  • Having a wet dream about someone doesn’t necessarily mean you’re attracted to them.

I have wet dreams all the time!  Is that ok?

  • Yes! It is perfectly normal to have wet dreams often!
  • As you get a bit older and your hormones settle down, you will probably have fewer wet dreams.

*We know that these aren’t the words everyone uses for their bodies (eg. trans folks), and support you using the language that feels best for you.