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Sex Toys

Sex toys can be a fun way part of your sex life!  They can be used when you’re alone or when you’re with a partner. If you use sex toys, the key thing to remember is to keep them clean.

Who uses sex toys?

  • Sex toys can be used no matter what your gender or sexual identity is.
  • People use sex toys when they are single and/or when they are in relationships.
  • People use sex toys on their own and/or with their partner.

What kinds of sex toys are there?

  • Sex toys include: vibrators, dildos, anal toys (including anal* beads), strap-on penises*, fleshlights and more! There are so many different kinds of sex toys that we can’t describe them all here! For more info, visit a sex shop or check online. Many sex shops have friendly staff who will be happy to answer all your questions!

What should I look for in a sex toy?

  • A safe sex toy should be smooth, unbreakable, clean, comfortable in size and have a flared base so that it can be gripped and removed easily.
  • Avoid objects with small holes or jagged edges that can scratch or hurt you.

Will sex toys expose me to STIs?

  • If you’re sharing sex toys with others, you could be exposed to STIs.
  • Use a fresh condom each time a toy is used and always clean and disinfect your sex toys, especially if they have been placed in the anus (butt hole).

How can I clean my sex toy?

  • Always keep your toys clean, especially after they have been exposed to someone else’s blood, semen, vaginal* fluids, etc. This helps to avoid spreading STIs.
  • Most toys can be cleaned with soap and warm water. Some can even go in the dishwasher.
  • To be sure, check the directions that came with your specific toy.

Can pregnancy happen from sex toys?

  • If the sex toy comes into contact with semen and then goes near or in the vagina soon after, there is a slight risk that sperm would be transferred and pregnancy might occur.
  • For more on how pregnancy happens, check out How Pregnancy Happens [Link].
Useful Tips
  • Don’t ever put a toy or body part into anyone’s vagina that has been used in anyone’s butt without washing or putting a new condom on it first. Moving bacteria from the butt into the vagina can cause an infection.
  • Use flexible objects with a flared base for butt insertion.
  • Talk with your partner first before using sex toys and find out what you are each looking for.
  • When using sex toys, talk to your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t.

*We know that these aren’t the words everyone uses for their bodies (eg. trans folks), and support you using the language that feels best for you.