Sexual Pleasure with Others
So you’ve explored your own body and what makes you feel good, what’s it like getting other people in on the action? Well there’s no right answer, because just like with masturbation what feels good for some might not feel good for others. Our factsheet Sex, What’s the Big Deal? goes into some detail about the importance of practice, some first time basics, and how to help manage your expectations a bit.
Remember the three C’s: Consent, Communication, and Curiosity.
Keep these in mind before, during, and after any play with another person!
Another thing to remember is that sex is likely not going to feel the same every time and that’s totally normal. If you’re tired, nervous, excited, anxious, or bored, all of those feelings might affect how much pleasure you get out of sex with someone else. That’s why it’s always a good idea to talk about how you’re feeling, what you’re up for, and what you’re into before getting involved with another person. Setting boundaries and talking about expectations might feel like you’re taking a bit of the spontaneity out of it, but it’s really the only way to ensure you and your partner feel good, that everything feels safe, and that neither of you feel like you’re doing something you don’t want to. Check out our factsheet Making Sex Feel Good for more ideas!
So what are some things someone could be into? Well check out our list of factsheets here to find out more:
There’s a lot more that people can be into than what we’ve included on this list, but it’s a helpful starting point before you do more exploring.
